“Before we debate the answer, can we agree on the decision we are actually making?”
Use when the room is solving three different problems at once.
Field note 01 · Before the room
Prepare the conversation before you walk into it
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Use when the stakes are real: scopecompensationdeadlinesperformancepartnership terms
Three usable scripts
Language for the moment people usually improvise
Adapt the words to your facts. The structure matters: name the issue, make the trade visible, and protect the next decision.
See the complete toolkit →“If the date cannot move, which part of the scope are we willing to remove?”
Use to turn an impossible demand into an explicit tradeoff.
“I do not want to answer that from memory. Let me verify and come back by 3:00.”
Use when confidence would be more expensive than a short delay.
The decision spine
Separate interests from positions.
- 01Name the decision
Write one sentence describing what this conversation must decide—not every grievance around it.
- 02Map the interests
Record what each side is protecting: time, money, status, certainty, autonomy, or trust.
- 03Price the trade
For each concession, name what must change in return.
- 04Protect the exit
Know your pause condition, escalation path, and next-best option.
Free operator checklist
Walk in with a page, not a knot in your stomach.
Get the six-part preparation checklist: outcome, interests, evidence, trades, boundaries, and follow-up.